You give me your word? Puhleeaase!

I give you my word.

There was a time when that used to mean something. Something worth more than gold. That’s not so true anymore.

When was the last time you heard that phrase and believed it completely without a flicker of doubt? When was the last time you made such a promise and lived up to it? I know its been a heck of a long time for me. I’m not proud of that.

The word of a man is his bond. You ever hear of that one? These phrases exist because a man is supposed to be a person of the highest integrity. When a man says he’s going to do something or be somewhere at a given time, it’s supposed to be a given.

I live in a country where integrity is a bad word. Actually, the word simply doesn’t exist in most people’s lexicon. All around me, I see men cheating, lying, breaking promises, unfaithful in work and relationship. It’s appalling to say the least. I’m not sure which is worse, that they do these things or that they don’t care at all about their integrity?

Finding a man of his word is harder than finding a blue grain of sand in the Sahara desert. One of my favorite verses from the good book says, “God is not a man that he should lie”. I love that.

God is the ultimate truth; you don’t get more solid than that. When God says he’s going to do something, He will. And He won’t be late or early but right on time. Now, I don’t always understand His timing and it pisses me off to no end but that’s a discussion for another time.

The point is, God never goes back on His word and neither should we. Now, I believe men are supposed to be representatives of God — nothing chauvinistic here, just a belief based on my Christianity. Therefore we are supposed to strive to be more like Him which means the highest integrity.

Gentlemen, it really is true, your word is everything. If you become known as a man of your word, it doesn’t matter what may happen or what the gossips say. People will trust and respect you because of your proven past ability to always live up to your word.

You should be of the highest integrity that you could hypothetically walk into a bank and ask for a loan without any security and they wouldn’t hesitate to give it to you because your word is worth more than your weight in gold.

Awesome. That’s exactly the kind of strength of word I’d like to have when I grow up. Seriously, I think Integrity is one of the key defining traits of manhood. You simply aren’t a man if you don’t have and continuously strive for integrity.

I love that my wife always tells me that she married me because she believes I’m a God fearing man of Integrity. I feel like a super hero when she says that. Now I only need everyone else to say the same thing.

So today, be careful with your word. Don’t give it lightly and always deliver mightily on it. Go out there and start creating a legacy of integrity. Start keeping your word, first in small things then the bigger. Work that integrity muscle till you become the mister universe of integrity. As a result, your life will become more wholesome, people will give you the respect and admiration you crave, your kids will sing praises for you and your woman will do anything for you. Not only that, but God Himself will move heaven and earth for you, because you’ll be a son after His own heart.

You have my word on that.

Shalom

I admit for the past two days I’ve been wallowing in self-pity. I’ve been raging against the world screaming about what I deserve and who I should be or what I should be doing and having. I’ve sobbed a few precious tears in the silence when no one was looking (yes I’m man enough to admit I do cry) I’ve given myself the liberty to allow everything around me to fall to the way side just because I needed to feel sorry for myself.

Call it a mid-life crisis but given that I’m only 32 years old, it’s come a little early. Hang on though, the life expectancy of an average black male is about 50 or something so I guess I’m right on cue. I have a confluence of anger, disappointment, frustration, weariness, dashed hopes, failures and shame swirling around on the inside.

My life looks nothing like what I’ve dreamed or hoped or planned. I’m nowhere near the caliber of man my wife deserves or father my daughter needs. I’m no successful writer or entrepreneur and I don’t have the impact in positively changing people’s lives like I want to. I feel horrible. My heart aches. It sucks.

Yes, I feel sorry for myself. It feels good. Great even. I’ve been brooding and not spoken much to anyone. I’ve enjoyed the concerned questions of my wellbeing and the prayers. Narcissm I think is the right word.

Yes. It’s been great. But enough!

Why would I give up something that clearly I seem to be enjoying? Well because it’s been a terrible time too. It’s made me feel worse about myself, knowing I know better. Feeling sorry for yourself is ok for a little while, emphasis on little; but after that it really becomes self-destructive. Ask any pig farmer and he’ll tell you, the longer you wallow in the mud the harder it gets to clean off – not to mention no one wants to touch you to help!

So I’m writing this as a declaration for myself and all those currently feeling like sickly swine in the mud.

*Bitch Slap* “Stop it right now!”

There, that should get your attention.

Feeling sorry for myself hasn’t given me any new bright ideas or inspiration on how to change anything at all. It certainly has propelled me forward. On the contrary, I feel I’ve thrown myself several steps back. I feel blocked off from faith, joy and love — the very things that inspire creativity. So I’m stopping it right now.

Funny thing though, is it’s a lot easier to wallow than just look yourself in the mirror and forgive yourself and move on. Believe me, I’ve been trying. It’s hard but I’m getting there. Why don’t you encourage me too, huh? I could use it (clearly I’m still enjoying the aforementioned attention). Either way, I’m on my way out of the doldrums. I just want to encourage all of you out there feeling like I have been that it’s ok to feel that way for a little bit but now is the time to get your butt in gear. Now is the time to forgive yourself, forget the things that lie behind you and press forward to your greatness. Yes, it will be hard and you’ll probably go through many more times like this. Just don’t stay there. When you’re going through the mud, don’t stop moving. The best thing you can do is slow down and keep your movement steady and even. I know this from driving off-road. It takes longer, is a lot scarier but you will get through it soon.

So here’s to you. I forgive you. I believe in you. Your dreams are reachable. You can do it. You must. It’s what God created you for in the first place.

Shalom

I’ve been struggling lately to write compelling, earth shattering, philosophical posts pertaining to you, the men who read this blog.

I read a whole lot from all over the internet, books, magazines. I watch videos and listen to audio tapes about being a leading man of God.

Each time I do I marvel at the writers prose and speakers eloquence and vast depth of knowledge and experience that make you hang onto every word they say as gospel.

I often catch myself, longing to be like them, wondering why I can’t be as deep and insightful? Why I can’t get people to hang onto my every word like I was an eastern zen master? Why don’t I get hundreds of comments to my articles?

As I pondered these questions, it hit me. The answer is actually very simple. These people(well, not all of them) are merely talking about what they are living. Period. When Bill gates speaks about multibillion dollar businesses, you listen, because he has one. When Tiger woods speaks about golf, you listen. When Muammar Gadafi speaks about being a dictator, still you listen.

The point is all these guys are talking their walk. But all too often, the majority of us tend to talk more about things we aren’t personally walking. The whole, do as I say not as I do mentality. It’s hard to admit but writing about being an awesome man when I’m not actually living out the very values I speak of leaves a huge character gap.

I can’t preach to you about courage when I’m too cowardly in my own life. I can’t preach to you about great marriage when I’m getting divorced. I can’t teach you about being a great father when I’m never around to actually parent the children in my life. I can’t lead you if I can’t lead myself.

It’s always a lot easier to speak authentically about what you know than to try to do what you speak about self-righteously. I have made a decision to do a lot more walking than mere talking in my own life. It is only by doing, failing, learning and succeeding in my own authentic way that I can teach others to do the same.

I want people to respond to me as someone they feel is authentic and living out what they would want to be doing so. I’m not interested in fame but rather in influence. And influential people are those who have weight behind their words, those who walk first and talk later.

In my last post, I talked about putting only real stuff here. (Oh and by the way that’s not an excuse to write less frequently –that would go against my walk)

So gentlemen, less talk more walk.

Shalom.

My last blog post was all about getting back on the horse. Walking the talk. You know, manning up.

However, today, I had a revelation that I believe will simply catapult my efforts to being my most awesome self.

As you may know, I do a lot of reading about success, growth, self-actualization, generally being the most kick ass version of yourself. The simplest and most common formula for success out there is:

 “Find your passion. Live your passion. Make obscene amounts of money from your passion”.

And when you live your passion, work is no longer work but pure bliss and every area of your life is infused with energy and enthusiasm because of this. Simple enough right? I mean, don’t we all know what we’re passionate about?  Yeah right!

Statistics show that only 5 out of every 100 people is ever going to be successful. So that means only 5% of the entire 7billion people on this planet actually know what their passion is and are living it out; not to mention successfully earning a living out of it. Chances are most of us don’t even know anyone in that elite five percentile.

As you can imagine, I’ve been super frustrated because I don’t have that “Oooh Oooh, I can’t wait to get up in the morning and go do this. I’m so blessed to have this job” special feeling that the successful talk about.

I mean even the disenchanted and rather suicidal sounding Preacher in the bible puts it like this:

 “For people and animals share the same fate—both breathe and both must die. So people have no real advantage over the animals. How meaningless! Both go to the same place—they came from dust and they return to dust.  For who can prove that the human spirit goes up and the spirit of animals goes down into the earth? So I saw that there is nothing better for people than to be happy in their work. That is why we are here! No one will bring us back from death to enjoy life after we die.”

So really, what’s the point in spending 12hours of your day everyday for your whole life, doing something that you don’t love? It’s been driving me crazy trying to figure out what I would love to do every waking moment of my life and not get tired of it. (Oh and travelling around the world enjoying good food, fine wine, fast cars and the company of exotic women does not count!)

So today it hit me. Why stress myself out looking for my passion when I can simply live passionately and let my passion find me?

Simple right? Alot of these successful men and women have shared that they actually didn’t start out where they are now but by simply grabbing life by the horns and living fully, they eventually found their destined path. Sure there were probably alot of false starts, bankruptcy’s, broken hearts and eating out of garbage cans but sometimes, there’s just no damned clear path with neon signs telling you what you were born to do.

Sometimes, your lucky, your blessed and you just know what you were born to do. Most of the time though, you get there after massive trial and error. Some would say it’s Gods way of testing whether your truly worthy of you destiny or your just a charlatan who would squander it away.

I think most of these people out there mislead us into believing that finding your passion is so easy, like, how you just know what you’d like to have for dinner friday night. I have come to believe its much more difficult than that for many of us. It’s more like finding your true self in the clutter of the expectations and labels thrust upon us by parents, friends, society as a whole. It takes courage, time, effort and even pain.

So here’s my advice to all of us who are struggling to find our destiny, our passion or simply work that we enjoy.

Just live your life passionately! Stop chasing passion and just be passionate about everything you do.

Be open to all the possibilities. Try things you’d never consider doing in your right mind. Do what you think you’d like to do. Embrace pain, failure and embarrassment.  Because it’s in the multiplicity of lifes seemingly random events and experiences, that we find out who we are, what we can not stand and very importantly, what we are most passionate about.

Most of all have faith in God. He will, in His perfect timing, set you in the right place and straighten the crooked paths you’ve taken.

Ahhh, I feel a huge burden off my chest now that I let go of that nagging need to find my passion. Go a head, try it. And be sure to leave a comment telling me all about your new found freedom.

Its been quite a while since I last posted anything here. I admit it’s been a crazy emotional time for me. I’ve been borderline depressed for over 2months actually. You see, even though I share alot of ‘wisdom’ on this site about being a man, living your best life and all,  I’ve found lately that being true to what I preach isn’t so easy. I came to realise that I am certainly not walking my talk or in this case, blog.

Truth is, I’ve been living way below my potential as a man, simply whimpering in the dark sewers of manliness while hiding behind brave words and polished blogs; nothing more than a whiny sack of narcassitic negativity and complaints.

There. I said it. I’m certainly not proud of it. But I have to be honest with you. And it’s time to stop!

I owe it to you my readers and more importantly myself, to live up to everything I write here. While I have never professed to be the ultimate man or a guru in all things manly, I hate the hypocrisy and disparity between what I write and my real life. So I have been seriously reconsidering my life, my marriage, my work, my mission. I shared with you in a past article  the importance of always questioning yourself and your motives.

But.… a lot of times, it’s really hard to look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, “what the eff am I really doing with my life, forget what I’m trying to make people think?”

So, from now on, it’s all about authenticity. I will not write anything here that I don’t personally believe or practice in my own life. I will work on every area where I am living beneath my dignity. And I will share with you my journey and lessons as I become more manly. That’s the promise of the Apprentice blog.

It’s not about having arrived. Its about getting there; the daily, dirty unglamorous struggle for all of us to be the men we know we can be and maybe, just maybe even greater than that.

How about you join me? Lets get back on the horse and start living to the maximum of our potential. Screw status quo. Lets rock this thing.

Let us be men again!

Who runs the world? Girls.

Thats what Beyonce Knowles wants us to believe with her hit new song. So does Alicia Keys who sings Superwoman. Our local stars Blu3 sing that they are strong women. A lot of these songs are coming up lately. Call them womens empowerment anthems. There is a tsunami of women’s lib and empowerment that is sweeping modern society like never before. It’s great to see women finally being recognised and appreciated for their uniqueness and all that it adds to this world. However, the down side to this is that men and manliness are being swept under this same wave. I see more than ever, men being despised, stepped on, degraded, pushed aside, valued less and in some cases, vilified and loathed.

In the last couple of thousands of years, men have been top dogs and women have been merely considered property or at best, baby makers. I laughed when I saw a scene from the Disney animated classic Beauty & The Beast, where Gaston the antagonist tells our damsel Belle, that women shouldn’t read because they’ll start thinking and that could become troublesome. Was it because men at the time knew education of women would expose their domination as a falsehood? I don’t know but as funny as it was to hear such a ridiculous statement, many men in the past believed it and practised it. That’s why girls were never sent to school. It was a rather neanderthal way of keeping women in check.

However, as we entered a more enlightened age in the last few decades, women have finally broken free of so many of those cave man ways. Women are educated, highly successful career driven individuals contributing so much more to modern society than making babies and keeping the house clean. We even have affirmative action and various gender based incentives to help women succeed faster and further than ever before. Thank God we now value women as they deserve. Well much more than before any ways.

Women have more say, more exposure, more opportunities than any other time in history. So then what’s the problem?

The problem is an ever increasing sense of reprisal against men and manliness from the self empowered women. After years of being considered no more than property, there is an almost genetic anger possessed by a majority of women who feel it’s time men paid for all the suffering of mistreated women going back millennia. An undertone of loathing and vengeance permeates the attitudes of a lot of women today. Too many generations of abused mothers passing on their pain and frustrations on to their daughters has left very little room for men to considered anything more than cave men who want to hump anything in a skirt(and now even anything not in a skirt)

It doesn’t help that these feelings have been justified by millions of men who have continued along the path of selfishness and false domination. A lot of women are justified in their feelings. Too many actually. So many generations of single mothers and by single I mean mothers forced to raise children alone because they were abandoned by the fathers not widows, has led women to believe they can actually do it all and only need men as sperm donors. Single mothers work and provide, protect and teach their children. Why bother with a father? Many men are beginning to believe that women are actually superior creations and won’t even try any more to be responsible man in the home.

There’s a rising trend of young successful career driven women who want to find a suitable sperm donor so they can have and raise a child on their own. They have money, time and historical proof on their side to show us, that indeed men aren’t necessary. They are more of an inconvenience to be avoided if possible. Interestingly, I’ve observed that one of the overriding allures of Lesbianism stems from women believing that women make better lovers and companions than men. Hmmm.

So what about manliness then?

Well, thats very quickly on the way out. Chivalry is dead. Women don’t need us to open the door for them or go out and toil for her all day while they stay home with the kids and the kitchen. The buzz words these days are sharing, feelings, getting in touch with your feminine side, being vulnerable. Oprah is the biggest talk show in the world. And that’s what you see on there. Men crying and sharing their feelings and being vulnerable in front of total strangers on global television. It’s just not enough that we aren’t needed as fathers and providers but now we’re being asked to become more like women. We’re now being asked to feminize our looks, do our nails, wear makeup, use moisturizer and go to the spa for mud baths. Wear earings and shave our chest hair. Yes, it’s getting that bad.

Rex harrison would truly kick himself now that men are being more like women

Traditionally, men are supposed to be the strong ones, protecting their women and children from the elements. Men are supposed to go out and sweat to provide a life for their family. Men are supposed to lead with boldness and courage, turning chaos into order. Men are the vanguards of morality, education and progress. But no more.

So where does that leave men and manliness? What are we supposed to do? Who are we supposed to be? If all the traditional manly roles of provider, protector, head of the home can easily be handled by the modern woman, what then? If we aren’t needed to be fathers who care, nurture and teach their children, what then? If we aren’t the head of the home, looked to for guidance, strength and direction, what then? If we can’t be rugged and brave and chivalrous because they aren’t necessary any more, what then?

I’d really love to hear what you think about this. Write a comment as to whether you think men are obsolete or if there is still a great need for us?

Shalom.

I’m sick and tired.

Tired of not being my authentic self and pursuing my unique God given purpose.

Tired of living in constant fear and dread instead of faith & confidence in God.

Tired of being unhappy, stressed and unmotivated.

Tired of being lazy, apathetic and always procrastinating.

Tired of being weak willed with poor discipline and follow through.

Tired of being timid, lacking confidence in myself and my potential.

Tired of not believing in myself or my dreams enough to pursue them relentlessly.

Tired of being less than a shadow of the awesome man I know I can be.

Tired of seeing others achieve their dreams while I’m still stuck in the same place.

Tired of doing work that I have no passion for just so I can make ends meet.

Tired of having to make ends meet!

Tired of not making a greater positive impact and contribution to peoples lives.

Tired of pleasing everyone around me at the expense of my own convictions and beliefs.

Tired of people telling me how much greatness is inside of me and not being able to live up to it.

Tired of reading success stories and self help books only to see the same old results.

Tired of looking at my daughter and knowing I’m not being the role model she deserves.

Tired of my wife believing me to be a great man and not actually being great.

Tired of looking forward to going to bed only to spend the night dreading getting up.

Tired of being sick and tired.

I’m always thinking of great new content to give you apprentice’s out there and I realised that I could do one better so I’ve added a new feature to the blog.

Email Subscriptions.

You can now subscribe to The Apprentice Blog to get these awesome articles delivered straight to your email. You can then read at your convenience and you are always instantly appraised whenever there’s new content.

Just fill in your email address in the form on the right, verify and voila.

Manly goodness delivered to you easily and regularly.

Shalom

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Why?

That’s it. Why? It’s an incredibly powerful question. It’s also infinite. There is always another why behind the first. Little children understand the power of this question.  That’s why they drive us nuts with all their questions.

But even for adults, “Why?” can be an incredibly useful question. Why brings out the truth of our motives for doing, saying or thinking anything. I believe that we humans are like onions with several layers to any one aspect of our lives. There’s always a motive, whether we are consciously aware of it or not at the time.

The lives we lead are not random but are a result of the beliefs we hold and consequently, the decisions we’ve made. The reason behind these beliefs is the Why. In order for us to live a clear and purposeful life, we must be crystal clear on our Why’s.

I once read a method called the 5 Whys. I believe it was used by Toyota Company to manage quality control. Basically, you ask why for each stage of production and by doing so, you illuminate the waste and inefficiency. The same can be applied to our lives. Say for example you’re obsessed with getting a promotion at your job, you could ask:

1. Why do I want this promotion so much?
   To get a pay increase and work less hours
2. Why do I want a pay increase?
   So i can afford a better car and lifestyle.
3. Why do I want a better lifestyle?
   So that I can have the respect and admiration of my peers.
4. Why do I want the respect of my peers?
   So that I can feel better about myself around them because I’m insecure.
5. Why do I need to feel better about myself?
   So that I can have the guts to pursue Mary Jane for a lasting relationship.

This process has broken down that I want a promotion so that I can ultimately feel better about myself in order to get the girl of my dreams. There’s the motive. The why process has peeled back all the layers revealing my true motive behind all my actions. Now I’m sure that there are more efficient ways to get the nerve to pursue the girl of your dreams. But unless you question yourself, you will waste tons of energy and time doing things to fulfill certain needs that could alternatively be met with simpler and more direct methods.

It’s important to stop and reflect about the things we do to discover why we are doing them. You have to step back every once in a while and put yourself through the why test to make sure you are perfectly clear about your motives for doing anything. I recommend getting your spouse or a trusted friend to help you through the process, especially when it involves bigger life issues like getting married as opposed to which underwear should I buy.

I leave you with some why’s to ask.

• Why are you here on earth?
• Why are you doing the work you do?
• Why do you believe what you do?
• Why do you love that woman?
• Why do you drive the car that you do?
• Why are you not really achieving your goals and dreams?
• Why are you overweight?
• Why are you spending all your evenings at a bar instead of with your family?
• Why do you unhealthy, tired and stressed?
• Why are you afraid to go after your dreams?
• Why don’t you believe in yourself?

Shalom

A question asked me by a disillusioned young lady I used to work with. A friend of hers had just had a terrible experience and she was looking for some answers. She was clearly disturbed and contemplating the troubling likelihood that someday, the same would happen to her. Even though it wasn’t her who was betrayed, I could feel the pain being conveyed second hand because that’s what cheating does. It causes serious pain.

I’m not sure why she asked me though. Did she think I must’ve cheated on my wife and therefore had insight I could give her that would make sense of her friends pain? Or was it because she trusted me as a friend who could help her simply understand the psyche of us males. I don’t know but I’d like to think it was the latter.

So why do men cheat? It’s a tough one. I didn’t know what to tell this friend of mine. She clearly needed an answer that could justify the actions of this young man in question. I really wanted to give her one. The challenge though is that there are as many reasons as there are men. Each man is different, in different circumstances and social environs.

I did have some common reasons why men cheat that I have come to learn from questioning, reading and observing. I’ll give you what I believe are the core five reasons men cheat.

1.Because of low self esteem

Men have a need to be respected and acknowledged in order to validate who they are. It’s just the way we’re wired. Accolades and trophies or to be more precise, external rewards are required to boost our self esteem or ego. We need this like air. The more trophies, the better we feel about ourselves. Having a string of affairs with beautiful women is like having a string of Oscars or Grammy’s. History has always praised men who have the sexual virility to conquer and bed more than one woman. Men with low self esteem will cheat to give themselves the approval they so desperately crave.  To them, it seems like the logical thing to do.

2.Because of biology

Men are physiologically designed to need sex.  It’s a God designed thing to ensure procreation. Let me just say that again. Men don’t just want sex, men need Sex. Genetically, spiritually and mentally. Our bodies are designed to respond to sex. That’s why we get aroused just by seeing you ladies in those super tight stretch jeans. Our bodies are wired to respond to visual sexual stimuli. It’s a reflex. Like a pregnant woman who needs a craving satisfied or else she’ll make life living hell for everyone around her, so is sex to most men. Men will get cranky, frustrated, and generally quite mad when they don’t get their fix often enough. So basically, they cheat on their partner if they aren’t getting enough of what their body craves. As Chris Rock once said “A man can stop chasing sex but if it falls in his lap…”

3.Because their unsatisfied at home

This is always a hard sell. Women don’t want to hear this one. Men cheat when they are unhappy in their current relationship. If their women no longer make them happy, don’t pay them any attention sexually(watch those I’m too tired or i got a headache excuses) or belittle them because they are independent women. Most affairs occur when a relationship is flat, shaky, on the rocks wherein women aren’t really feeling the emotional connection that enables them to have sex with their man. As my earlier point showed, men need sex not just want it. This double edged sword will literally force the strongest of men off the edge into the waiting arms of another woman. Ladies, I’m saying sometimes men cheat because you push them to. A hard fact but often the truth.

4. Because there’s always a better booty.

Here’s another tough pill to swallow. You know the saying, the grass is always greener on the other side? Well, ladies, there is always a better woman than you out there. And out there doesn’t necessarily mean on some internet porn site or off in Latin America. It could be your younger sister, friend, receptionist where you work or even the maid you brought home from the village. The point is, there is always a more beautiful woman, a more busty woman, a more provocative woman, a more…available woman than you. And don’t for one second fool yourself into believing that they wouldn’t love or appreciate or desire your man more than you either. Men without focus cheat because there’s always someone better and if a man has no clarity on what he really wants in a woman, any next woman will be better than the one he has. This is especially true for men who base their choice in women on the size of their breasts or curve of their hips.

5. Because they can

Now this one I loathe. History has taught us that men are superior to women and thus can have as many women as they desire. It’s a mark of pride and manhood. Society has always condoned men having affairs even going so far as to glorify them as Playboys or Playa’s. Women on the other hand are ostracized at the first sign of indiscretion. Men have been encouraged to cheat. Before I got married, I was told by every man I came across that I would need a “side dish” to keep my sanity. Everywoman I came across on the other hand told me I was destined to cheat on my wife no matter what I did. I actually came close to believing that I was expected to cheat as a man. Can you believe that? And the sad thing is, it’s a commonly accepted belief that all men have to cheat. That it’s somehow our nature.

So that’s why men cheat. Well mostly. Like I said, there are so many reasons why a man might possibly cheat but I believe they all tie into one of the above core five reasons.

Having said that, I do not condone cheating on ones spouse or committed partner. Yes clearly there are several passable reasons why we might. And yes society seems to be alright with us cheating and our women are being raised to expect us to. It’s still not right.I don’t believe men have to cheat. If that were the case, then the Catholic Church has a lot of explaining to do as to how their clergy men manage all those years with out sex. Men can be faithful to the end. It’s very challenging more so to day given the immoral world we now live in.

I believe a true man is a man of his word, of honor and commitment. A real man chooses one woman and sees her as the only one. A real man smiles in the face of temptation and says, “damn girl, that booty is bangin’ but you got nothing on my wife/partner” even if your partner happens to look like a bat! A real man chooses to make it true for himself.

In the future, maybe I’ll write a post on how I believe one can take precautions to avoid and overcome temptation. I don’t know, what do you think?

Shalom

p.s Interestingly, times have changed so much that with their new found freedom, more and more women are cheating on men now! They have their reasons too however…